Anyone who’s been in a situation, medical or otherwise, that’s nearly killed them, will slip automatically into “bonus round” mode in life. It’s an orientation impelled from the deepest recesses of the soul where near-death lies. It’s a gift really. And somewhat makes up for the suffering in the “nearly dying” part.
For those who are curious about this orientation and would rather not pass through the traditional gateways to arrive at it, I will do my best to describe it to you. You can see what might fit for you in your life.
- “Bonus round” means waking up in the mornings and being firstly, surprised that you woke up, and secondly, incredible grateful. All sounds, sensations, emotions, smells have a surreal taste to them. It’s not dissimilar to the beginning phases of a hallucinogenic drug trip.
- “Bonus round” in life means losing a drive towards investment in a future further than six months away. You no longer worry about career advancement or developing skills, trying to fix bad relationships, investing money in abstract ways, or making sacrifices for an unseen future.
- “Bonus round” means rediscovering that you do actually care for your family members and friends, estranged or not, no matter what they’ve done. You don’t even care if they’ve made any imposed requirement of effort in your relationships with them. You just love them. You want people in your life. Instead of being obstacles and infringements on your inner peace, they become great vaults of happiness and potential experiences.
- “Bonus round” means the world becomes a limitless place again, like it felt when you were 19. You know you can do anything you want and that everything is somehow available to you. And yet, you’re not afflicted with the ambition to insist you have or do all of it.
- “Bonus round” in life means harboring the deepest levels of acceptance for nearly all circumstances. Even feeling bad feels kinda good. Situations become less judged for their content, and more on how you sit in them.
- “Bonus round” means when you feel physically good, really really good, it’s like the best New Year’s Eve party you’ve ever been to, or a motorcycle for Christmas, or winning $75,000 on a scratch ticket you found on the street. You can’t even believe it and it makes you giddy!
- “Bonus round”means living with freedom from fear of death. You’ve peeked and it’s not so bad.
“Bonus round” in life for me means I’ve finished “the game”. And new worlds are opened up for me by some punch happy game developers that still had some required hours to put in on their contract. It’s all new environments and challenges. It’s soundtracked differently. But the best part is that I’ve already beat the game, and now I’m just going after points for the hell of it.